Being HIV+ and engaging in non-monogamous relationships as a female with a high sex drive, I often feel misunderstood. Feeling misunderstood causes me not to be as transparent about my needs, which only hurt me in the end. I think people will invalid my needs and go as far as accusing me of being HIV+ because of them, which is a massive misconception that surprisingly people believe.
Yeah, I love having a lot of sex with different people; that isn’t the reason why I’m HIV+.
People become HIV positive because they are poorly informed because they are influenced by HIV stigma, which is tied to our sex-negative culture.
Being HIV+ is the reason why I’m sex-positive and why I open myself to give and receive love to and from multiple people.
You might be thinking that doesn’t make any sense because most people who become HIV+ stop having sex and lose hope in finding love, and that’s because they are poorly informed because they are influenced by HIV stigma and sex-negativity.
Growing up as an HIV+ child, people, especially people living with HIV, often made it seem like I was undeserving of a loving relationship and a fulfilling sex life, that I should be grateful that someone would even choose to interact with me in those ways and if they did it will be done in secrecy.
I refuse to allow others to project their view onto me because I get to decide what I’m deserving of.
I know people’s views reflect how they would feel if they were HIV positive; I don’t have to feel the same way; they get their opinions from our sex-negative culture.
So I can’t be upset that people view me negatively. They are only a product of our society; what I can do is contribute to my community by speaking up about my personal experiences.
I am here to say you can be a female with a high sex drive, be HIV+, and be in any type of relationship you desire because when you speak up, you are one step closer to getting what you want.
My ultimate goal is to encourage self-love and to empower you to speak up to design a relationship that fits your needs, especially for individuals living with HIV.
That’s why I created My Purora, and I openly talk about my HIV experiences on Instagram Zora Voyce.
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